Itachi, Lees theory can backfire, especially if the person really believes you are talking about someone else and then he/she finds out you are talking about someone that YOU did. What should I do. When you go out and get drunk- if you find yourself attracted to another man- think back to how you feel now after you acted on that attraction. Hubby had a similar experience when we were in our first year - with his ex. I guess it's the nature of the topic - emotive yet one of those Grey areas. You have been dating this guy for only two months and it's not serious yet. Spoiler alert: Not that different from kissing a girl, only they dont fancy them. Being married is something that can be quite complicated at times. So your crop had already been carrying a blight, hadn't it. The guilt may be strong because you doubt yourself right now and were surprised by your actions. It's South of France for us this year, holiday-wise, and then in about a year-and-a-half's time we're off permanently to Espana (por favor). Here are the frightening ways to know that he gave another girl a kiss ; 1. Well you need to figure that out and fast. He is my workmate also. Go cold turkey. If I ws on ur place I would never have told him because he loves me so much and respect me so much and really trust me like anything and if you are guilty and try to relieve ur guilt by telling him still doesn't prove to be beneficial for you and other than that it creates a doubt in his heart that would be very mych lowering The respect he has in his heart for you. I read or heard somewhere that the only good thing that comes of guilt is to prevent you from doing it again. We were going through an awkward time in the relationship and I was craving the attention and simplicity of this guy. I think a real man actually kisses a dude at least once to really know your sexuality, one says. :-( Feel free to start a thread if you need to vent it all out.). The video shows twogayguys(fellow vloggers Jordan Jayro and James Butler) partner with four straight men togive them their first man-to-mansnog. Dont tell me that you and ______ (the girl who was staying at our house for the weekend) are lesbians? If he forgave you, then it sounds like he accepted that it was a mistake, that you won't do it again and has moved on. Keep it to yourself. It's not fair they didn't ask for it. I was enjoying myself and loving the chats and laughs. I sent the guy packing with a friendly piss-take (whilst deliberately flashing my ring), and then told hubbie the minute I got home. I was so drunk, I barely remember the kiss, but I know it happened. Other than that, I've said everything that needs saying soyou lot carry on if you want, but I'm sat back, counting the money. You might come to the conclusion that something is lacking in your primary relationship, and you might decide to break up with your partner and pursue the person whom you kissed while drunk. With or without the same seniority. How is that beneficial to him? Forget about it! Ive told her Im sorry, I wont let it happen again and Im sorry for being dishonest. It was such a weird experience. ;-)) Hello, TheBestAdvice: Im glad you thought my post was intelligent and that you could relate to it. A forum community dedicated to married life between you and your spouse. Most people don't confess- You ask for advice of what you should do- you got the RIGHT advice. "Sadly, many people who have a crush on someone else purposely get drunk ". Anyway, I just thought I'd mention it out of respect for that other time with that girl and to show you that, despite I'm not as quick thinking as you, especially when I'm blotto, I can still handle myself in these situations [grin]." .Houston, you and I have now strengthened our bond (whereby attention and affection follow) by together having conquered a potential crisis which can now longer be called a problem rather than a PAST godsend of a dual warning (not enough attention/affection worthy of marriage) merely in problematic clothing. I practise what I preach, me. Not just to you. An innocent kiss usually involves getting so plastered that you lose your inhibitions and someone tries to kiss you and you return the kiss. I have never done anything like this before and truly would never again. "what the hell where we at?" Not sure how anyone can say they're "certain" he doesn't need to know, given the fact that he made his own standards and expectations perfectly clear on that score, back when he himself was the 'victim' of a come-on. It's good that you're willing to forgive,most women would divorce. Better safe than sorry. It happens, in other words. female Please tell me I will stop feeling like this. I think you already knew what you wanted to do, your husband was not home, saw an opportunity, and wanted to use being drunk as a cover story. A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2006): Hey sweetie my Name is Jilian I have a boyfriend as well and we have been dating for 3 months, I have had past relationships that have gone on for 11 months, I have cheated on my past boyfriend andi felt so terrible andi was in the same situation as you are, sweetie i know how you feel. I kissed another girl while black out drunk, dont remember a thing. You were no exception. You're the worst! I appreciate you taking the time to reply to me, I can see you feel very passionate about infidelity, however, on this occassion I won't be taking your advice. / Houston, turns out I/you/I+You can't have kids the natural way after all, which is no-one's fault; let's try IVF / adopt / foster / console ourselves with the fact we'll always have each other, and the babies of people we know to borrow, and the freedom and greater financial means to please ourselves. I love him so much and feel totally ashamed at what happened over the weekend in what was a drunken moment at at a party.I got drunk and kissed another boy. I know he would forgive me but I don't want to deal with issue with him. If the reaction is strong, then maybe dont say anything. But maybe I should have My thoughts are that he has been persuing her. I'm sure you'll survive if you don't tell him and I'm certain that he doesn't need to know. For me i felt guilty for enjoying it so much. Your boyfriend may love you so much that he believes you won't repeat the cheating ever again. Boyfriend kissed another girl while drunk? You're denying him that right and being selfish. Lee.. you are too funny. To be honest, my stomach is sick with the thoughts of the whole thing. Not just what I did but the fact I work with this person and have to continue to work with him. Yesterday night we went out to drink. What if she sabotages the relationship through guilt? If it were me, I would contact her, & let her know that I didn't appreciate her actions. Which may not seem like a big deal for some of you. I feel so bad since then. My piano instructor came over once a week, usually on a Saturday when my husband was home. i agree with everyone there's some really good sharing here. And what Simone Bienne said on the love line. If you are separated, you aren't doing anything wrong. She may say that. I'm going to keep my distance from my work colleague and I'm going to ensure nothing like this ever happens again. A guy bought me drinks and he asked me if I wanted to ride his motorcycle to another bar and I did. HIKARI, you can't take up an obsolete thread as your own, no matter any similarities, so if you want feedback and advice it's best to start a new one (and copy and paste that post into it as your opening post), okay? You came to your sences and stopped this from going any farther. With the other woman just across the room! If he is nervous at you looking at his messages and also refuses to tell you who she is, he is hiding quite alot. She confessed to loving the experience and enjoyed the thrill knowing she had her husbands permission and he was watching her. After all she did say that the kiss lasted for maybe 5 minutes. Im also pleased that you agreed with my argument as to when to fess up and when to keep your mouth shut. Right,undoubtedly you didn't say what Tillybops wanted to hear. I'm disgusted with myself to think I would do that after just the tiniest bit of attention and flattery. I think it is a better idea for both of you good luck.do share progress. I could tell that he had a thing for you. I like the soft smooth touch of a woman and her sexy smell while iam kissing her with passion, if there is a romantic connection it's even better. [4] WHY would you have kept it secret? Confide in someone you trust. Remind her of your good points. . like, by not investing his heart too much via (wait for it) an optimum amount of kisses and cuddles, etc? I mean if a person can't rely on their own strength of character and self-discipline to stop them from crossing that line, they obviously NEED an outside deterrent. Why? As time elapsed, I realized that I was attracted to him and this began to concern me. It's where the lips have been and where they're going. Im guessing that theres a good chance you would have gone all the way if the piano teacher had gone for it. I feel sorry for those with depression, mental illness, hangnails, bad hair, bad childhood memories, etc. However, if you kissed someone whom you liked or had a crush on while you were drunk, my opinion is that you cheated. Free weekly email, Insta, and more - > https://linktr.ee/monogamish_me. Anyway I'll get off this post now. He has morals. :-)), SOULMATE: Meant as in the universe of sisterhood (wrongly) To award Biggest B*lls on the Block Award -comment never was to imply same race- so on behalf of the Academy I accept :), (Good stuff. Personally, I think even innocently returning a kiss is cheating, although Id probably keep it to myself! Assistir Chelsea X Leeds - Ao Vivo Grtis HD sem travar, sem anncios. If you kissed a stranger while you were drunk, dont worry about it. I didnt blame the alcohol because I knew I had feelings for my piano teacher, and I didnt want to pretend the feelings didnt exist. I kissed another Man, please help. - Netmums Actually I really don't have any experience at all. Things have gone a fair way beyond ideal but you aren't a silly school girl after your first taste of wine. My wife left me because I had become emotionally unavailable. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. When my husband came home, he could tell right away that I had been drinking. Yes, that's what I was going to advise - that you two continue any discussion on LG's own thread. get into counselling. I was dumped.so why do *I* feel guilty? reader, missbunbury+, writes (25 October 2005): A I'm mortified. Im a guy and i had sex with my guy bestfriend drunk. reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2005): A female Why would you want to do that? 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